{"id":169195,"date":"2021-02-17T07:15:48","date_gmt":"2021-02-17T12:15:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/?p=169195"},"modified":"2021-02-17T13:02:20","modified_gmt":"2021-02-17T18:02:20","slug":"alumna-happiness-isnt-as-elusive-as-it-may-seem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/2021\/02\/alumna-happiness-isnt-as-elusive-as-it-may-seem\/","title":{"rendered":"Alumna: Happiness Isn&#8217;t as Elusive as it May Seem"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>UConn alumna Michelle Wax \u201912 (BUS) drove her Jeep across the country in search of people who were truly happy.<\/p>\n<p>She found hundreds of them, from teenagers to senior citizens. None of them were millionaires. All of them led normal lives with challenges, from the mundane to the extreme, yet their outlooks were inspirational.<\/p>\n<p>In a documentary film, <em>American Happiness<\/em>, which debuts next week, Wax chronicles her journey and what she discovered from those who live joyful, energetic, and meaningful lives.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_169196\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-169196\" style=\"width: 240px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-169196 size-medium img-responsive lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-240x300.jpg\" alt=\"Alumna and documentary filmmaker Michelle Wax pictured outdoors in Alaska during the making of her documentary film about the nature of happiness.\" width=\"240\" height=\"300\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-768x960.jpg 768w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-1229x1536.jpg 1229w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-1639x2048.jpg 1639w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-336x420.jpg 336w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-532x665.jpg 532w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Alaska-Michelle-scaled.jpg 2048w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 240px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 240\/300;\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-169196\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Michelle Wax &#8217;12 has a new documentary film exploring the nature of happiness (courtesy of Michelle Wax).<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cThe common thread through all the interviews is that happiness is a choice,\u2019\u2019 Wax says. \u201cIt\u2019s something that\u2019s internally created and not something a person, material item, or circumstance can bring to you long term. I\u2019ve interviewed people from all different ages and occupations and lifestyles, and they have all made a choice to create and choose happiness every day. But that definition of happiness isn\u2019t one-size-fits-all; it was as unique as they are.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n<p>In addition to the interviews and beautiful scenery, the documentary includes easy-to-understand scientific research about how the brain is wired and how people can use that information to increase their happiness.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI hope people will tap into ideas and different ways of thinking, change their perspective, embrace new ideas, and re-evaluate how they\u2019re processing what\u2019s going on around us,\u2019\u2019 she says. \u201cEven a small tweak in our actions and thinking will create more long-term fulfillment.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n<p>After what has been a universally difficult year due to the pandemic, people are looking critically at their lives, their values, and seeking to nurture greater resilience, she says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI had an incredible journey, that I felt was almost stamped on my soul,\u2019\u2019 Wax says.<\/p>\n<p><strong>From Cookie Boss to Happiness Pioneer<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A native of Dover, Massachusetts, Wax majored in management at UConn, with a concentration in entrepreneurship. After graduation, she created a cookie-catering company called Kitchen Millie, named after her grandmother. It grew from a side business to a permanent one, with prominent clients.<\/p>\n<p>She later formed a second business, The Local Fare, which coached and guided startup food companies.<\/p>\n<p>Although both companies were thriving, Wax was haunted by a sense of emptiness.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI wasn\u2019t in a dark, dark place, but I found myself stressed out easily and with lots of self-doubt,\u2019\u2019 she says. In 2019, she sold both businesses and turned her personal quest into the American Happiness Project.<\/p>\n<p>She found many people struggle with questions like, &#8220;Do I matter?&#8221; and &#8220;Am I making an impact on the world?&#8221; Many people envision happiness as something they\u2019ll achieve when they meet the perfect mate, buy a nice house, or get a promotion, she said. It is something many see as a distant goal. But a quest for happiness should start today\u2014and it doesn\u2019t have to begin with a life-altering event.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe documentary features interviews with people who all went through a tough time and overcame a challenge with a positive mindset,\u2019\u2019 she says. \u201cMany of them emphasized the importance of bringing back into focus what they can control in their lives, versus what\u2019s happening in the world.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pandemic Increased Demand for Mental Wellbeing<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Over the last two years, the American Happiness Project has offered workshops and programs to corporations and universities.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-169197 size-medium img-responsive lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-300x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-1024x512.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-768x384.jpg 768w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-1536x768.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-2048x1024.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-630x315.jpg 630w, https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Main-Promotional-Image-1300x650.jpg 1300w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 300px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 300\/150;\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u201cBecause of the pandemic there has been an even greater demand for companies and schools to offer mental-wellness programs and our business has grown throughout this time,\u2019\u2019 Wax says. \u201cWe\u2019ve seen a demand for more long-term programs that focus on how to implement a happiness path once you understand it. We\u2019re adding value by providing strategies to make it work.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n<p>Although there are coaches who promise life-altering advice, Wax believes she is one of the few that showcase typical Americans while offering practical advice to approach change.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy programs are definitely customizable because everyone\u2019s definition of happiness and fulfillment is different,\u2019\u2019 she says.<\/p>\n<p>This spring, Wax is launching the <a href=\"about:blank\">CONNECTION community<\/a> to help people develop new connections with peers from across the country. \u201cNow more than ever, people are craving connections and a positive community of friendships that will uplift them, support them as they grow, and encourage them to live the life that they want,\u2019\u2019 she says.<\/p>\n<p>Only a few close family members have seen the <em>American Happiness<\/em> documentary and Wax is eager to share it more widely.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOverall, I\u2019m really excited to share this project,\u2019\u2019 Wax says. \u201cWhen I started this, I didn\u2019t anticipate it to become what it has expanded to. Now it\u2019s more of a movement than I could have ever anticipated or predicted. I\u2019m really excited to be putting this out to the world; it\u2019s a nerve-wracking experience because it is so close to my heart. My family cried when they watched it, and hopefully it inspires others &#8211; they may even shed a tear or two.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>The virtual launch of \u201cAmerican Happiness\u2019 will be at 7:30 p.m. (EST) on Feb. 25, followed by a Q&amp;A with Wax and a panel of experts. Tickets range from $15 to $85.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>For more information, please visit: https:\/\/american-happiness.com\/.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Documentary film finds happiness is a choice <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":121,"featured_media":169198,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_crdt_document":"","wds_primary_category":0,"wds_primary_series":0,"wds_primary_attribution":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[147,2235,2225],"tags":[2254],"magazine-issues":[],"coauthors":[2105],"class_list":["post-169195","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-alumni","category-today-homepage","category-uconn-storrs","tag-alumni"],"pp_statuses_selecting_workflow":false,"pp_workflow_action":"current","pp_status_selection":"publish","acf":[],"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-04-23 15:25:38","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169195","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/users\/121"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=169195"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169195\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":169323,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169195\/revisions\/169323"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/media\/169198"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=169195"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=169195"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=169195"},{"taxonomy":"magazine-issue","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/magazine-issues?post=169195"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/wp-rest\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=169195"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}