{"id":32630,"date":"2011-04-11T08:38:28","date_gmt":"2011-04-11T12:38:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/?p=32630"},"modified":"2011-05-31T12:36:31","modified_gmt":"2011-05-31T16:36:31","slug":"an-equitable-approach-to-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/today.uconn.edu\/2011\/04\/an-equitable-approach-to-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"An Equitable Approach to Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"<p>Lucille<\/a>
UConn parent Lucille Protas. Photo supplied by UConn Foundation<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Equity could be a middle name for Lucille Protas, a UConn parent who is the acting CEO, COO, and senior managing director for MacKay Shields LLC, an investment advisor in Manhattan. Protas has twins, a girl, Megan, and a boy, Matthew. Megan attends a private university in Connecticut, with its attendant hefty price tag. Matthew attends UConn. To ensure that all things are equal, Protas gives the difference as a gift to UConn each year.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t pay taxes in Connecticut, so it seemed to me I was getting an opportunity that I didn\u2019t necessarily deserve,\u201d she says. \u201cSo I felt this was the right thing to do.\u201d<\/p>\n

There is something more, though, an inexplicable feeling she gets when she visits UConn. \u201cWhen I am on campus and I walk up Hillside, there is a distinct feeling of enthusiasm and energized young minds ready to conquer the world. It feels so good to see future leaders being developed,\u201d she says. \u201cMatt could have gone to Rutgers [the state university in New Jersey], but he didn\u2019t want to go there. Here he was very lucky to get an opportunity at a state school he really wanted to go to, and now three years later UConn is his home away from home. The boy I sent off to college is now a young man with a mission. So why wouldn’t I give back?\u201d<\/p>\n

Protas has a long history of stepping up to do what she feels is right. Growing up in impoverished but loving circumstances, she made an early commitment with her children to feed the homeless in New York City. \u201cI knew what the world was like, but the children, growing up in well-to-do northern New Jersey, had no real understanding of it,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

\"CampaignHer life now is a world away from her childhood. As she sits in an office whose windows span the entire northern end of Manhattan, she ponders the comforts that success brings. They are comforts that she enjoys but does not covet; she knows that poverty can sometimes instill character, and that unearned wealth can distort it. So early on, she took her young children into Manhattan so they could see homelessness first hand. They found a man begging from a box on the street. Protas gave them each a dollar to give to him and asked them to say something kind to him. Returning to the comforts of their home, the children named him Bert. Protas periodically relayed stories about the hardships Bert encountered every day, despite the fact that she never saw the homeless man again. It was a first lesson in philanthropy for the Protas twins.<\/p>\n

Once they entered high school, the family volunteered with the Fifth Avenue Presbyterian Church\u2019s homeless program near their mother\u2019s office. While it was very rewarding, Protas felt it wasn’t making enough of a difference. Multiple times over the course of four years, they raised money, collected and sorted used clothing, and cooked hot meals to feed the homeless, setting up a distribution center in front of the church. Most importantly, the goal was to spend time communicating with those that had the potential to get off the streets. In addition, on Sunday evenings in the summer when the soup kitchens are closed, they would walk the streets of Manhattan handing out sandwiches to homeless people.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was very rewarding,\u201d she says. \u201cBut it was nuts because of safety and health concerns. I don\u2019t know how I get involved in these things.\u201d<\/p>\n

But really, the answer is obvious. Protas remembers not having much as a child, and she wants her children to understand the reality of those less fortunate. That\u2019s why she acts \u2013 and that\u2019s why she gives.<\/p>\n

\u201cThere is a history of service in our family, as I have tried to get my kids to realize not everyone lives like them,\u201d she says. \u201cAnd I trust that the people who had the vision to make UConn what it is will have the vision to take the money and do what\u2019s right.\u201d<\/p>\n

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